Aww…some Monday’s Music Moves Me!

46 Years of Awesome!

 

So….What’s the Secret?

Today, May 11, 2020, my wife and I celebrate our forty-sixth wedding anniversary.  It has been the most exciting, rewarding, and fulfilling journey of my life.  In a world where everything seems to be devalued, especially love and commitment, some might ask, how have you stayed married so long?  I first penned the following words eleven years ago and I believe them to still be true today.  The good Lord willing they will still be true in four years when we celebrate our 50th.

So what’s the secret to being married for thirty-five years and looking forward to celebrating number fifty one day? All I can tell you is that our marriage is centered around our faith and that the message from God’s Word is critical to the happiness that each of us enjoys.

First of all, God loves us and everything He does for us is for our benefit. He created the institution of marriage to be enjoyed by a man and a woman and to bring each of them happiness. The Bible tells us that God loved us so much that He gave His Son to die on a cross for us so that we might, through faith, have eternal live. Christ tells the husband that he is to love his wife with the same love that Christ loves the church and gave himself for that church (Ephesians 5:25). If I love my wife with that kind of love, then everything I do, I do because I love her and I want her to be happy. I want her to be pleased with this relationship. I want my Lord to be pleased with me as a man who loves his wife and realizes that his wife is a gift from God created especially for me and for my happiness.
Secondly, marriage is a partnership. Like any relationship, it takes work to maintain that relationship in peak condition. A happy marriage doesn’t “just happen”. Both of us are committed to the relationship and to each other because we love one another and it is our desire that our partner be happy in this relationship. No major decision in this relationship is made without prayer and conversation. God is not the author of confusion, therefore He will not give my wife a different answer to an issue than the one that He gives me. Again, God created the institution of marriage for our benefit, not for our demise.
Finally, I married a woman far better than I deserve. I thank my Lord and Savior for her every day. My wife is the most thoughtful, caring and giving person that I know. Proverbs 31:10-12 says, “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” I have found that woman. Proverbs 31:25-30 further states, Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and teaching of kindness is on her toungue. She looks well to the ways of her houselold, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all. Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” I married such a woman.
So, back to the original question, “What’s the Secret?” The answer is, you have to give yourself to the marriage. You have to give yourself to your spouse. Whatever you have within you, you have to “Give it Away.”

28 thoughts on “Aww…some Monday’s Music Moves Me!”

  1. Sandee

    Well said. My husband always tells me I’m his pearl of great price.

    ♪♫Happy Anniversary to you,♪♫
    ♪♫Happy Anniversary to you,♪♫
    ♪♫Happy Anniversary Dear Friends, ♪♫
    ♪♫Happy Anniversary to you.♪♫

    Thank you for joining the Awww Mondays Blog Hop.

    Have a fabulous Awww Monday and week. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    Reply
  3. Kathe W.

    Wonderful loving post. Happy Anniversary and may you have many, many more!!! My sweet husband and I count our blessing every day that we were so lucky to meet each other. Have a lovely day and take care!

    Liked by 1 person

    Reply
  9. XmasDolly

    … tears of joy! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO YOU & YOUR LOVELY BRIDE! CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU BOTH! I surely hope my husband and I could at least make it to 30 yrs. We made a wee bit late in life and he’s my second husband, so I guess if you don’t do it right the first time the Lord gives you another chance and we did it right this time 12/23 we celebrated 20 yrs. Woo Hoo! May the Lord bless you both with happiness, sincerity and a great deal of love! Amen… HAVE A GREAT DAY, and BE HEALTHY, BE SAFE! hugs

    Liked by 1 person

    Reply
      1. XmasDolly

        God bless the both of you & I shall pray & ask & tell the Lord that there’s two people down here that have so much love for each other that it would be so nice to let the two of you bless their marriage at 50 yrs. with His love & the love for each other in each other’s arms, Amen… I really hope & pray you’ll make it together. hugs

        Like

  10. Cathy Kennedy

    Driller,

    Amen, and Amen again!! You couldn’t have said it any better – beautiful job and Happy Anniversary on 46 years!! It’s so wonderful to find others committed to their spouses as you and your wife. Like you, DH and I have God at the center. You’re so right God is not the author of confusion. He will not let us be out of sync with the other. DH treats me with the same kind of love and respect as you do your darling wife. I know you two will see your 50th anniversary and feel even more love for one another on that special occasion. Thanks for sharing. This is a wonderful post and I hope others not only just read what you say but share it with others. People need to place more importance on their marriage but first they need to get their hearts right with the Lord so they can also have a rock solid relationship with their soulmates. Great mewsic choice, my friend! Take care and be well!!

    Liked by 1 person

    Reply
  14. XmasDolly

    Oh, and I forgot to tell you… your wife has the biggest most wonderful smile I have ever seen on a young lady’s face in a very long time. I knew a woman with a similar smile a long time ago, but she’s gone now. Maybe the good Lord gave her smile to your wife… I’d like to think he did so her smile would live on. She’s beautiful. You’re a very lucky man my friend. Very lucky indeed. Have a wonderful evening.

    Like

    Reply

Leave a comment